Many men who have suffered from sex addiction also have intimacy anorexia. Dr. Doug Weiss has identified 10 characteristics of this condition:
If you have 5 or more of these characteristics, you probably have IA. The best way to evaluate yourself on these characteristics is to ask your wife if you display any of them. If you struggle with IA, the Intimacy Anorexia Therapy and Work Group is for you:
Intimacy Anorexia: The Workbook
Intimacy Anorexia: The Steps
Emotional Fitness: From Challenge to Champion in 60 days
Heart to Heart Counselling no longer ships these books to Canada because of outrageous shipping costs. However, you can purchase each of them as an ebook at Dr. Doug Weiss’ website, https://www.drdougweiss.com/online-store/.
The group format:
Gerry does 26 lessons (6 months) to get through all the material. Once he is done the 26 lessons, he will start over and repeat all the lessons. It is suggested that you attend the group for as long as it takes for you to eradicate all the insidious criteria of IA!
The cost for this group will be done in a subscription format of $50 + GST ($52.50) per month paid by credit card only. There is a minimum three month commitment. You can cancel your subscription any time after the first three months. Please fill in the contact form on the homepage if you would like to attend this group. Once you have registered, Gerry will send you the Zoom group link.
Additional Information:
- You can join the group at anytime. There is no start or end date.
- The lessons Gerry gives will be helpful no matter what time you join.
- Even if other guys are half way through the materials and you are just getting started, you can still join the group.
- You will be sharing based on where you are at in the materials. Not everybody will be on the same lesson at the same time.
- If you make a long term commitment to the group, you will hear all the lessons. Gerry will be repeating them two times per year.
- Repetitiveness is good. Long term commitment is good because IA is much harder to overcome than sex addiction.
- Your payment will be processed by credit card on the first of the month or the 15th of the month depending on when you join.
- You stay so busy, there is little time to connect with your wife.
- When your wife points out something you are doing wrong, you defend yourself and then sometimes shift blame back to her.
- You limit or outright withhold love from your wife (limit or withhold her love language).
- You limit or outright withhold praises from your wife.
- You limit or withhold sex from your wife or when you are sexual, you are emotionally disconnected.
- You limit or outright withhold spiritual connection (praying together, talking about God, etc.)
- You are unwilling or unable to share your feelings.
- You use anger or the silent treatment to control your wife (get your own way).
- You criticize your wife (verbally and/or nonverbally).
- You control or shame your wife regarding money or spending.
If you have 5 or more of these characteristics, you probably have IA. The best way to evaluate yourself on these characteristics is to ask your wife if you display any of them. If you struggle with IA, the Intimacy Anorexia Therapy and Work Group is for you:
- The group is on Wednesday evenings from 7:30PM to 8:30PM central time.
- You will need to have the following books:
Intimacy Anorexia: The Workbook
Intimacy Anorexia: The Steps
Emotional Fitness: From Challenge to Champion in 60 days
Heart to Heart Counselling no longer ships these books to Canada because of outrageous shipping costs. However, you can purchase each of them as an ebook at Dr. Doug Weiss’ website, https://www.drdougweiss.com/online-store/.
- You will be expected to read the books and do the exercises and share what you have been learning and applying.
The group format:
- Opening prayer.
- A check in from each attendee.
- Gerry gives a lesson based on the reading material and his own personal experience.
- Sharing and discussion time.
- Closing prayer.
Gerry does 26 lessons (6 months) to get through all the material. Once he is done the 26 lessons, he will start over and repeat all the lessons. It is suggested that you attend the group for as long as it takes for you to eradicate all the insidious criteria of IA!
The cost for this group will be done in a subscription format of $50 + GST ($52.50) per month paid by credit card only. There is a minimum three month commitment. You can cancel your subscription any time after the first three months. Please fill in the contact form on the homepage if you would like to attend this group. Once you have registered, Gerry will send you the Zoom group link.
Additional Information:
- You can join the group at anytime. There is no start or end date.
- The lessons Gerry gives will be helpful no matter what time you join.
- Even if other guys are half way through the materials and you are just getting started, you can still join the group.
- You will be sharing based on where you are at in the materials. Not everybody will be on the same lesson at the same time.
- If you make a long term commitment to the group, you will hear all the lessons. Gerry will be repeating them two times per year.
- Repetitiveness is good. Long term commitment is good because IA is much harder to overcome than sex addiction.
- Your payment will be processed by credit card on the first of the month or the 15th of the month depending on when you join.
- You can attend the group every week or not. If you can only make it 1 time per month, that is fine. The cost is the same no matter how many times you attend. To maximize your investment, it is best to show up every week but it is not required.
- If you have both sex addiction and intimacy anorexia, it is recommended that you attend both a sex addiction recovery group and an intimacy anorexia group.